I found this post very interesting and informative. I did not write this type of letter to friends and family before we brought home Elijah and wish I had done so to some degree. I have learned to take things in stride. I let comments roll off my back, I think you have to with adoption, especially international/transracial adoption. One thing I have been thinking a lot about lately is about Elijah's birth family. How are we going to answer the questions that he will have for us someday? Many of those questions are ones that we don't know the answers to ourselves. But after visiting with people who were eager to meet Elijah and who felt bold enough to ask us some of those questions, I think it's time we had a talk about this issue with family and friends. Some, but not many, know E's history. We don't want the whole world to know about it. Yes, he is a miracle. Yes, he is a joy and a blessing. I would love to share with everyone about the awesome thing that God did to bring this child to our family. However, I must think of E. and how I would feel if I were in his size 8 shoes. If I were him I don't think I would want everyone to know every detail of my hurtful past. I must be careful with my words, and ask those who know his story to do the same.