Friday, July 31, 2009
Thursday, July 30, 2009
We are so thankful that friends gave us this above ground pool last year! While it took a few repairs and seemed like a pain, it's been getting a lot of use this summer. We've had record breaking hot weather the last few days. The worst part is because we live where it is typically mild, there are not many air conditioning units in buildings and homes. We went to the doctor today and it was so nice to be inside a cool medical building!!!
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
Last night I had dinner with two friends who have adopted and have struggled with issues with their children. We discussed them, but along with the issues we talked about how alone we feel when things get tough. There are a few local adoption support groups who are very selective in who they allow to join. We are working on starting up our own group open to anyone! I am so fortunate to have a great friend I can go to with problems, questions and funny stories. Some people are not so blessed with adoption experienced people in their life. When things get tough, so called friends turn their heads and look away. They don't want to see the ugly side of things or get involved. Many do not understand or know how they can help. All I can say to people who know a family or person struggling with a problem in their life, whether it's adoption, health problems, family situations, or financial distress is REACH OUT. Be a blessing and ask what they need, how you can help. Don't turn away. Be a light!
Colossians 3:24 (New International Version)
24since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.
Tuesday, July 28, 2009
I was given this link by a friend about PTSD in adopted children. Thank you so much for this! I read it and do see some things that are related to E.'s behavior. But this paragraph stood out to me the most:
Because a human infant is totally dependent on her mother for survival, one of the most traumatic events an infant can experience is abandonment in a public place under dangerous circumstances. She will literally fear for her life. To then live in an orphanage, where care is routine at best, and neglectful and abusive at its worst, can only add to the trauma. Daniel Hughes, PhD, author of several books on attachment, calls neglect "the trauma of absence." While many assume that abuse is far more traumatic than neglect, we now know that neglect is equally harmful. We also know that the combination of abuse and neglect can be shattering to a child's psyche.
E. got very good care at COTP to the best of my knowledge. I have been there 2 times to volunteer and observe how well it was run. I do not suspect any abuse or neglect. BUT, the fact that E. was not placed at COTP until 7 months of age means there is a part of his infancy that I don't know about. No one does. He was found abandoned at a hospital, starving and bloated from kwashiorkor. He had several feeding tubes, and has a scar on his ankle where the nurses cut it open to find a vein for an IV. I can imagine this would be very traumatic, let alone the fact that his mother had left. In my mind, she left him out of love and fear. She knew that she could not care for him, or pay for his medical bills. She left him in the best place she could think of, the hospital. She loved him enough to take him there and not allow him to die in her arms at home.
I don't know if E. has PTSD, but it is worth doing more research and looking into. He is still holding his hands in a fist, or pinched together. He is attached to his "guys" and takes them everywhere. He has problems falling asleep. He has many hyperactive moments, clings to adults and seeks sensory input. These may all be signs. I will have to talk with our doc about this and see if therapy is what he needs. It never even occurred to me that this is what he could have.
Monday, July 27, 2009
(3 - 5 Years)
11 - 13 hours
Naps usually end by 5 years; nighttime fears may emerge
Consistent sleep/wake time and bedtime routine
Tips for Preschoolers
Thursday, July 23, 2009
Wednesday, July 22, 2009
It looks a bit crowded, but for now it's the only space I have. I moved the bookshelves around, and organized all the books. I do not need to buy any curriculum for a while! I put the little chairs and table over near the bookshelves and two tall stools for bigger people next to the bar. Notice the letters on the little phonics board? Nice, I just read what they say. Gotta love my preteens.
...is E's evaluation. I am so anxious to hear the outcome of this. It would be nice to know if he will qualify for developmental preschool, or if he is right on track? Is he having some sensory processing issues or is he just a funny 3 year old boy? Hopefully soon we will have some answers from professionals. Please pray that the OT will get an accurate picture of his history, personality, and development. I have read a lot about kids adopted from institutions having developmental problems. Personally, I don't define COTP as an institution. E. got a LOT of attention, love and playtime while he was there. I do think that he could have developmental complications due to his malnourishment at such a young age. I do know he is smart, funny and charming. He can climb up anything, including a 10 foot metal slide/ladder (scary). He is clever and sneaky but super sweet. He asked S. this morning "Do you want a banana S?" His speech is not always clear, but I understood him clearly.
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
Monday, July 20, 2009
E. looking cute:
E.'s first horseback ride:
L. showing off his smitty skillz... they actually let the kids heat a horseshoe and shape it with tools all by themselves as long as an adult was with them. I was scared! Do you know how hot coal can burn?
L. in the barn:
C. by the pond:
E. getting ready to jump into a pile of hay:
Milking a real cow:
Thursday, July 16, 2009
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
E. is doing good. He is scheduled for his evaluation by the Children's Neurodevelopmental Center next Thursday. I can't wait to see how he does. We are still learning so much about him, and he surprises us every day. His English is improving and his personality is emerging.
Tuesday, July 14, 2009
Zach, Gretchen, Lori and Licia began taking children into there home in Jan of 1999. They started with a child that was severely burned on her stomach and leg. The dream of the Rescue Center was started and it has only grown from there. They cared for up to 10 children in their home before permanently moving to Cazale in May 2002. The Center has grown to care for an average of 50 to 60 children and 4 to 6 adults at any given time.
Friday, July 10, 2009
Wednesday, July 8, 2009
We went to the zoo yesterday with Aunt, Uncle, and cousins. It was nice and the kids had a lot of fun. I think they liked visiting with their cousins the very best. Too bad they live SOOO far away. Looking forward to seeing them again in a few years, but praying it's sooner.
Monday, July 6, 2009
Sunday, July 5, 2009
Thursday, July 2, 2009
This is a word Samuel can say very clearly. He says it whenever he sees someone wearing one, and he pats his head, as if saying "Where's mine?" But if I put one on him it is quickly on the floor!