Wednesday, March 25, 2009

Time with C.

Today started out ok, I was really looking forward to spending some one on one time with C. She's been struggling a bit with E. being home. We had a lunch date planned. Olive Garden, her favorite. We went a bit later to avoid the lunch rush. We sat at our table, awkwardly talking about life, summer plans, and activities. It felt very strange, the quiet, the time to enjoy my food, and time to listen to my daughter. She is a pretty timid, quiet girl when she is not "on stage". She enjoyed her dish of fettuccine alfredo, her favorite. We also shared some shrimp scampi. Yum.

After lunch we stopped at Target to get some household items. We also picked out a cute outfit for C. to wear on Easter. Then the drama started. She had been asking for a DS game for a while now. She claims we owe her money (from her birthday) and that she wanted to cash it in now. I told her no, that it wouldn't be fair for the other kids, and that she still owed her sister a new barbie. (She'd broken K's new barbie the other day) Also I believe she had spent all the money she had in our "bank". So she whined and complained a bit as we left the store.

Once we got home the drama kicked up a notch. She started crying and dropped her leftovers on the floor, which she blamed on baby S. She started name calling and treating me with lots of disrespect. I sent her to her room. I got in my bed and cried. I don't know how to deal with this. Mood swings, much emotion, rejection, names and tears. I just wanted to enjoy a nice lunch with my daughter. How will I survive the next 10 years? Help me Lord!


Salzwedel Family said...

Oh the joys! So sorry. Being a mom is the hardest and best job ever.

Ericka said...

oh honey, welcome to the pre-teen/teen years.
I have gotten more grey in the last six months......
Wish I had some great wisdom, but just know that someone completely understands :)

One Crowded House said...

yes- I have seen the martha stewart show with her daughter- and I think it is hilarious... it's even funnier that Martha promotes it herself and encouraged it!

I am sorry that your (very scrumptious) lunch date with your daughter had a sour ending.... our 7 year old son had the hardest time when Stevenson came home.... he was kind of struggling for his place in line and I think felt like there was more competition.... it has gotten lots better.

We have had to make the rule that the kids aren't allowed to loan each other money- or "give" each other old toys... somehow the story always gets twisted- or someone doesn't remember they have been paid back already... and it is just too much of a headache!

Kathy said...

Hang in there! We've had rough waters lately and ours haven't even come home yet!!